Mandy, your XH isn't going to step up, he is going to do what he wants to, just like he has done since you have been here, he will not change. I'm glad you and your son are doing well. It should almost be time for him to start College isn't it? We have been here a long time!
BeingMe and Braveheart you are both spot on with your replies. Braveheart son as been at college for near on 6 months now. to the last happenings son as said he just wants to go beat the pulp out of his father, ah well life goes on. BeingMe as luck has it aunt as just changed her will and will be leaving ex or his wifey nothing at all, only in the last fortnight as she removed ex from her will and also nominated somone else to be the executor, her words are they have taken enough they will get no more
I am glad the aunt changed her will. I hope you and son are doing well. I'm in Germany, visiting D30 ... going back home mid-March. Very different to Canada.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
Hi forward, long time no see xxx I do still visit old aunt and I do not see any reason why I should not, this is probably one of the things that gets ex'x back up as well as the poor cleaning lady, I go to see aunt maybe once a month, drop shopping off etc. But do you know I think now is the time I visited her more, thankfully she seems to be improving on her health again, maybe a virus or something she picked up, the cleaning lady is not doing her cleaning now (nothing to do with the incident with ex, in fact she had stopped cleaning quite a while before that outburst), when I visited aunt last week during her illness I noticed that her flat is getting somewhat grotty, so I have said I do not care if it upsets the ex and the bitch he married, I will go clean for her and so that also makes sure I get to see her and keep a check on her, I do not know why it upsets the ex and wifey so much that someone cares about aunt enough to go do chores like cleaning and shopping for her, goodness me she is 85 years old and disabled, do they just expect her to sit and rot, well I do not care if it upsets them I think I need to do more for her, and yes I do still care about aunt, and I feel I owe it to her to look after her due to the fact that she has made out her will so that everything goes to my son and not his so called father,. have to say the ex only called her the one day during her illness, no visits and no further calls, how sad, because do you know he will want tending and nursing sometime in his life, wonder who will do it for him xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
because do you know he will want tending and nursing sometime in his life, wonder who will do it for him
His wife .... hahahaha! No! She'll probably need tending to herself. His son? I hope they will be reconciled by then for him to feel some responsibility to do so.
Sad, but funny too, to think of a time when he will be in a state of needing others like his aunt does.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
Mandy, You have a heart and the compassion shines through. I think it's wonderful that you are still seeing the aunt and doing things for her. She's no longer able to do them herself and god forbid, your x and his wife can't find their way out of a wet paper bag with a flashlight, to come to her aid.
Some day, karma will bite them in the butt and they will be in the same position and will require tending to.
My hat's off to you for being the person you are!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
I think it's wonderful that you are giving care and attention to your X's aunt. And what makes them so mad about it? GUILT. As Snodderly says, Karma is a biotch, and what goes around will certainly come around.
Snodderly thankyou so much for your kind words, it means a lot to me xxxxx, Punkin thankyou too for your kind words and yes I do think guilt and shame is in the equation, oh well no worries my head is held high xxxxxxxxxx
