Hi forward, long time no see xxx I do still visit old aunt and I do not see any reason why I should not, this is probably one of the things that gets ex'x back up as well as the poor cleaning lady, I go to see aunt maybe once a month, drop shopping off etc. But do you know I think now is the time I visited her more, thankfully she seems to be improving on her health again, maybe a virus or something she picked up, the cleaning lady is not doing her cleaning now (nothing to do with the incident with ex, in fact she had stopped cleaning quite a while before that outburst), when I visited aunt last week during her illness I noticed that her flat is getting somewhat grotty, so I have said I do not care if it upsets the ex and the bitch he married, I will go clean for her and so that also makes sure I get to see her and keep a check on her, I do not know why it upsets the ex and wifey so much that someone cares about aunt enough to go do chores like cleaning and shopping for her, goodness me she is 85 years old and disabled, do they just expect her to sit and rot, well I do not care if it upsets them I think I need to do more for her, and yes I do still care about aunt, and I feel I owe it to her to look after her due to the fact that she has made out her will so that everything goes to my son and not his so called father,. have to say the ex only called her the one day during her illness, no visits and no further calls, how sad, because do you know he will want tending and nursing sometime in his life, wonder who will do it for him xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx