Just tell him that you want to take it slowly LIS... build that foundation. Here, I can actually use some of my W's words from the other night to use. My W flat out told me that if we are going to work on M that she isn't go to put up with certain things that she put up with before. There was a list, but I won't go into that. I think that you all got the idea from my post the other night. Anyway, what I'm saying is that maybe you should give him a list of a few things that he needs to change. I wouldn't go overboard, but it sounds like you have him wanting to come home and work on M. Now may be the time to set a few boundaries about your M.

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Denver

M 43
X 38
T 13
W moves out of home 11/2010
Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012
I request divorce 5/2012
W moves home 6/2012
Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015
I leave 3/2016
process of divorce