As the Bolt Turns

[Bolt]

Sad,

I agree but I look at it from this angle. If the relationship was solid would there be a problem with her having a male friend? If the answer is yes and you are working towards having a solid M then where is the trust you want to achieve?

If Bolt is that adamant about not allowing it then the boundary needs to be set and respected plain and simple. In order to do that you MUST lose the fear.

2Step is on FIRE!

Can I also tell you that you are the only one with this opinion out of EVERYONE I've talked to.

However - I think its the right one.

I KNOW there is nothing and will be nothing. I'm actually making an attempt to know this person because he has a similar personality to me and has a lot of female friends. I've chatted with him a little and he's assured me he has no interest in my girl.

I've been doing a lot of searching to find out a "definition" of an emotional affair. Don't beat me up here but here me out.

There are a lot of things that she ISN'T doing. She isn't hiding the fact that she's talking to him. She wasn't exactly telling me every time she did earlier but that was pre-Boltess change (when she was one foot out the door). Now she tells me every time.

There is no physical attraction at all on her end. She's a good looking chick and looks are a little important to her (sounds weird but she has never been a chick to go after an ugly dude who is funny - I know her better than anyone)

It's not every day. It's barely once a week.

anyway...I'm beating a dead horse here. It's a friendship pure and simple. My stupidity/jealousy/insecurity can make it into something else. That's on me.

I have to deal with that insecurity...