I understand the feeling of getting socked in the gut when the affair is revealed.
My thing was that I had made it very clear that THAT was a deal breaker and then when it happened
I found it really wasn't so much
and then
I was stuck with the idea of saving face almost?!?!?
If your heart knew an affair happened then you have already been dealing with it
Whoever said that 3 months is not a long time is right
when you practice DB....you kind of are in it for life because it is a life change
I am no longer with my ex...(long story, sort of movie of the week) but I am with the most amazing person...a man who loves my lights and darks and is practiced at the art of Dbing himself. Our relationship is the envy of others on the outside because they don't know the work that we went through to get here
so
When you are in it for the long haul you will still get angry scary white hot angry that doesn't change.... how you deal with it does
Cori and I learn from each other every day but one of the greatest gifts we give each other is never taking the other person for granted. I know how lucky I am and so does he and we tell each other everyday.
Might be a nice habit to get into
because when you say it outloud, you not only tell the other person, and yourself, but you tell the world
it is a new beginning
she has to forgive you you have to forgive her and you both have to forgive yourselves
