Ditto what LIS said. If something is working, don't try to push it and break it. Keep your word, stick to your changes. You can do this 2step, you can stay patience and build the foundation you need to. Baby steps. Still forward.
Me - 38, 2nd M, no living children, 1 forever 6 yr old boy H - 44, 3rd M, twins 16
Dating 4/07 M 10/08 Bomb #1 12/10 Bomb #2 1/11 Bomb #3 12/11
