But I just don't see you particularly worrying about how you are going to be sure that you offer her a better marriage to return to. Do you worry that she might not forgive you? That she may not ever be able to trust you not to get angry and fall into the ugly old you? How are you going to build that trust? How are you going to rebuild the commitment? Seems to me, you have the easy part in forgiving her a sexual transgression. She has to forgive an entire personality transgression.
Some of your points have validity. And AGAIN, I feel more guilt about my 'personality transgression' than I could ever explain here in words. The easy part? I don't know about that. I don't think any of this is easy, on either of our parts. And I have yet to see ANY situation on this board where either party in the M or R had an easy part.
The answer to your questions about whether I worry about me falling back into the old me... If you had read the entirety of all my threads here, you can see the work that I've done to change. Why did I do this? Bc I don't want to repeat my mistakes. I chose to do this even when the chances of repairing my M were slim to none. So the answer is 'yes'... I do worry about all of the things you asked. I don't think that there is just an end to this process... I think that I will have to do it for the rest of my life to make sure that I don't become complacent.
M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce
