Denver based on your analysis you are characterizing vows in order of importance.
If you admit you broke yours why is her breaking hers an issue.
Because it was physical and not emotional?
Maybe I'm not communicating my point very well 2Step. I don't think that there is a hierarchy on vows. I'm saying I broke mine, not by cheating, but by not loving and cherishing my W as a H should. My W broke her by not remaining faithful while we were/are still M'd.
I feel more guilt about my transgression than I can ever put into words. But I'm struggling with the idea that my W's transgression is just 'okay'.
It's the old idea that 2 wrongs do not make a right.
Cat seems to be saying that my W was 'emotionally divorced'. Maybe that is a legitimate concept. I'm just trying to understand it more. So that I can process all of this.
BITS Denver
M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce
