denver my H did the exact same thing. When i found out about the PA he just looked at me all confused like he couldn't understand what i was accusing him of. He said 'we were separated' ... i almost choked as he had forgot to inform me that we were lol.. my point is, he had emotionally detached and attached a physical separation to it. Our WAS do not realize this, for whatever reason whether it makes the transition easier, it alleviates their guilt, denies them the responibility of their actions etc. they cannot see beyond their noses and would never look at it from our side no matter how much we try and point it out to them. Over the past few months i've realized that although i absolutely DO NOT agree with how he behaved or handled our separation or 'supposed separation' I can now honestly understand the HOW he could believe what he did was acceptable. Hurts like hell trust me, but it makes the forgiveness easier when we can relate to what drove them there in the first place.
Me-41 H-34 T-9 M-8 10/21/10-BOMB 11/01/10-H moves out 01/27/12-H files
"Good memories tell you that your past was worth it, bad ones tell you that you were strong enough to go on"
