BITS,
Thanks for the "bail out" today. After the words of encouragement, I got up, and went to the gym for 2 1/2 hours. I worked out until I could not move my arms. At least while I am there, I am focused on me and I am in public and not sitting alone in my house. It really did me some good. I feel better right now. Unfortunately, the plans I had for tonight have fallen through and I am now facing a night alone in the house. Not cool...

Denver, with all the stuff you are battling right now after the blow you took just 48 hours ago, I can't thank you enough for coming to my aid. You are one hell of an individual, my man. I think your W better wake up and realize she is letting one heck of a guy slip away. To all my BITS, thank you. Thank you very much.

I just think it was the damned dreams. I can't seem to stop them lately. Sometimes I have three or four a night and she is in all of them. And they are always the same. At some point in the dream, I get to touch her, hold her, hug her or hear her say she wants to come home and I am so relieved. Inside the dream I am so happy and then I wake up. I look over at the empty pillow next to me and my heart just drops. I know I can't control my dreams, but they are my worst enemy right now. They haunt me all night long.

I have been getting some conflicting advice here, so I want to ask some questions for clarification. Between my post about where I stated I am worried about the past blocking a possible return (wanting to apologize for past behavior) and my post this morning, I got opinions that seemed to differ from what I have been getting in the past weeks. Some of you think I should approach her and apologize much like 2step did (which in a way kind of constitutes R talk, but in a good way). While others continue to tell me to give her space. So, the question is this? Is it or is it not time for me to approach her? It has been five months since she moved out. But, it is also only one week since she came by and "peacocked" around my kitchen. I have come so far. I really don't want a mis-step or a setback right now.

Advice? Thoughts? 2x4's?

BITS never walk alone!

FOBD

Me: 39
W: 36
T: 15 yrs
M: 9 yrs
S: 09/10

So you can get on with your search, baby
And I can get on with mine
And maybe someday we will find,
That it wasn't really wasted time...