........ being dim/dark between contacts and it makes sense. That will be a challenge for me as I seem to be an all or nothing person.
Yep. I know what you mean! I'm the same way. XH and I have never really exchanged harsh words, no name-calling, and no swearing at one another.........EVER. That's just who we both are. We always enjoyed chatting back and forth and still do.
I think that once you get to the point where you KNOW that you are OK with moving on if you have to (note, I wrote "moving on", not "moving forward") your attitude changes a bit, you are willing to take more risks with H (like I did when I began flirting a lot with XH), and you turn the tables on them.
