With all do respect I can't understand why it's acceptable to allow your S to text OP without consequence?!?! You can't act "is if" when S is in a EA or PA.

Respect is not a boundary. It's absolutely critical in any R. Not just in MR but in all areas of life.

When you get right down to it if you could lose the fear, you would not tolerate any disrespect...

M: 42 - W: 41 - M: 18 - T: 23 - D:16 S:14
EA - July 2010
NC w/EA - Nov 2010
Piecing - Jan 2011
I ask for div - Jan 2012
Div papers filed - Mar 2012
I move out - July 2012
Divorce final - Nov 7, 2012