I've heard good and bad on the moving out. For some people it is an important step before getting back together. For others, it is final. If you can do a month to month lease, and not lock into a long time commitment to the apartment, I think it would be better. Definitely try to get to the dialoguing. The questions don't need to be big ones. Maybe just "How do I feel on days we don't talk?" or "How do I feel about our date nights?" then you can work up to "How do I feel about living separately?"
