Here is the thing man, she called your bluff and she won. Something I have learned about being a jealous person (which I am not anymore use to be in my early 20's) is that it does not matter how jealous I am if someone is going to cheat they are going to cheat. All my wasted energy on worryinig about it is pointless.
Nothing you do regarding this person will change the outcome.
You stop her from texting him. She could resent you for it because they are truly friends.
You let her text him and you feel like crap.
I just see it as if you put your foot down on this then you are creating a problem where there isn't one.
A cheating spouse is a cheating spouse and there is very little you can do to stop it.
Keep hitting your goals on a daily basis keep taking your temp check every week. These are all good things.
