How long were you dark before your most recent convo with H? H may be more attuned to you now when you interact.
I think that when I went dim after my D, it taught my XH that I wasn't willing to wait around for crumbs. Even now, I'm pretty dark in between our weekly TT games. Jody says that being dim/dark between contacts at this stage heightens arousal when it occurs ala flirting. Those positive contacts will be perceived as more novel in their day-to-day lives with OW which have become more routine now.
