Alamo, have you wondered why she would need you to completly leave the house in order for this 2 yr old baby to talk to his grandparents? What would they need to protected by privacy for a baby? Think about it.
Then, what would cause her to feel that she had to go to the garage and get inside the car to talk on the phone? Why not speak from inside her bedroom?
Next, look at her dolling up very sexy and going out to a hot place in town. Has any of this behavior been "normal" for her? Do you find these things very strange?
Sandi, always awesome to hear from one of the vets! Honestly, the more I let my mind wonder what my wife is doing, the more it bogs me down, so if I feel it's not constructive, I try to eject it from my thought process. To answer your questions, however:
This increased privacy on her side started sometime after the computer debacle from few posts ago. If you look from a setting boundaries POV, she probably felt (real or imagined) that she was lacking privacy, so she created boundaries of her own, e.g. way less open door policy, closes her room door when she's gone, as well as seeking privacy for phone calls to her parents and friends. She talks pretty loud even in her room, though I've pointed that out to her many many times in the past. She probably is copying talking in the car from me, because she herself found me doing that earlier in our separation when I was having private sensitive conversations with my counselor, friends and family. The funny thing is I never threw a fit when she interrupted my phone calls in the car, but she sure was livid when I interrupted hers.
Dressing up has always been my wife's forte and passion. I stifled that during out marriage; she only got to dress nice on weekly dates and functions, but not with her friends, go dancing, etc. So upon separation she began doing that again. And I fell for her again.
If she is speaking other males, however, I don't want to be bogged down too much by it, as jealous as I get, because if this makes her feel liberated, i'll have to let her experience it. The part that makes me so SO jealous is my wife is a very sexual woman, and now that her Christian values are out the window and she has an IUD, she'll probably get physical with a guy she dates. But that's just speculation. Whatever it is, I love my wife and want her to be happy, except that I would really love it if she fell in love with me again.
