Originally Posted By: goodattitudegirl I don't think you HAVE to be emotionally drawn into H's drama if you are spending time with him. You can DB in a mechanical way (i.e. act AS IF). If H warms up to you and ditches his OW, you will then be in a position to choose what YOU want to do...........Just another way to think about this........... Think I get what you mean but probably need you to elaborate here GAG on the Act as if...... Then again, they've been together so long could there really be any point.
I meant that there were times that I went through the motions of being especially sweet and attractive to XH with revenge as a motive (don't think XH could tell the difference between these times and the times when I was genuine which was most of the time). I did this when XH did something thoughtless that got under my skin, I was irritated, and wanted to mess with his head and to sharpen the contrast between me and GF#2.
