I must confess that when GAG has been in an evil frame of mind (bad attitudegirl, a.k.a. BAG) she has used this same approach to drive a wedge between Mr. GAG and GF#2. It will be much more obvious to your H's OW how much you are in his life if she is living with him.
I have had this exact thought. We haven't spoken since early December but he was still reasonably comfortable and it didn't take too long for him to warm to the conversation. And I had also thought that h will want to assert his control so going out without her will be his way of staying in control.
Originally Posted By: goodattitudegirl
It sounds as though your H feels entitled (was he this way pre-bomb?) and will probably tell her that he can do whatever he wants to do.
It seems like he felt he was hurt during M so now he definitely feels he is entitled (hence the difficulty negotiating with him financially). I am sure he's told her that he will be living his life his way. The way he spoke it was almost as if he saw this as a bonus cos she contributed financially and he could continue to live as he wished.
Originally Posted By: goodattitudegirl
I don't think you HAVE to be emotionally drawn into H's drama if you are spending time with him. You can DB in a mechanical way (i.e. act AS IF). If H warms up to you and ditches his OW, you will then be in a position to choose what YOU want to do...........Just another way to think about this...........
Think I get what you mean but probably need you to elaborate here GAG on the Act as if...... Then again, they've been together so long could there really be any point.
It seemed as if there was an out clause at about 6 months somehow cos he was fairly def he would need to stay at my house with D in May but not so sure about Sept and he's committed to his boss for 6 mths. This is also about the time D will be due to get her licence and he is the one doing most of the driving with her. I'm wondering if he has a back up plan in the pipeworks.
