Angel - I just read your posts from this morning. I can't imagine how you must have felt while reading those letters. It is painful to hear someone you love so much talk kindly or lovingly about another person who is truly an intruder on your M.

Listen, I would not discount your H's love for you. When A's happen, the other party is exciting, fun, and everything that the non-cheating spouse is not. If your H were to leave your M and go be with OW, there would come a time that she would no longer be those things. Right now OW is something that he cannot have... so it seems much better than it actually is. The luster would fade. It does in all R's... The true test of a M or R is whether or not you can keep it together at the point that the butterflies are gone... that the luster and sparkle fades. This is the work that you are doing.. and your H too from how it sounds...

BITS
Denver

M 43
X 38
T 13
W moves out of home 11/2010
Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012
I request divorce 5/2012
W moves home 6/2012
Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015
I leave 3/2016
process of divorce