M “ I just wanted to call you and let you know that I am sorry for the way I have hurt you. You did your part on the M and I failed you. You were a great W and a great friend to me and I stopped being your friend and for that, I am sorry. I would have walked through the gates of hell for you. Never believe you are not a great woman because you are. I hope that I always see you the way I see you today. That is all I wanted to say. I hope you have a good night and a great week”
This was my apology to my W just this last week. At the point I said I was prepared to hang up, you saw the result.
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It's just that my W is still holding a ton of anger right now.
They all are, if they weren’t none of us would have met. Anger is a temporary emotion and this too shall pass in the mean time FOBD continue to recognize and improve you because in reality that is all we can do. As the anger fades the only thing remaining is her evaluation of the new you. I have ZERO doubt if I was in OK and was able to see my W on occasion we would be piecing right now. ZERO doubt. You can use your interactions to display the new and improved FOBD. Lotus is 100% right, you can ask for forgiveness but you can’t demand it. She chooses to forgive or not but if you are truly making changes for yourself then I guess it really doesn’t matter which one she chooses.
