Lost, I want you to know that I kind of lost it reading your post this morning. I made all the same mistakes you did and I am so sorry each and every day that I did that to my W. I know we say this so much on here that is starts to sound hollow, but.... I am very, very proud of you and the realizations that you have made. I am watching you grow as a person right in front of me and it really touches my heart to call you a BITS. I am so glad he wants to come home. I hope and work hard each day so that I may have that same opportunity some day.
Just remember that the hard part begins now. Have you ever worked on a remodeling job? A couple of years ago I gutted and remodeled our master bath. It is easy to tear stuff apart like what we all doing to our marriages. Heck, it only took me two days to completely gut the bathroom. A saw and a hammer and some muscle and I destroyed the place over a weekend. But, it took me over a year to put it back in working order. Get my drift? Be patient. Be patient with yourself, with him and with your love. It has multiple hammer blows and cuts from the saw. It is going to take a boat-load of wood, paint and spackle to make this thing shine again. But, I know that you have the tools and the talent to make this happen. You know why? Because you are a BITS!!!
Good luck today, my friend. I love your new rules. I am going to steal them if I get the chance. Especially the one about having one day a week for each other. I love that idea!
I will be waiting for an update. Take care!
BITS never walk alone!
FOBD
Me: 39 W: 36 T: 15 yrs M: 9 yrs S: 09/10
So you can get on with your search, baby And I can get on with mine And maybe someday we will find, That it wasn't really wasted time...
