1) I would wait on the flower idea. It still might be too soon. But, you know her better than we do, so you will have to make the final decision on this.
2) As for having your list of "deal breakers," get rid of it. I had my list all ready to throw in my W's face the minute something on the list was violated and now it is meaningless. For years, I was one of those guys that always had lists like this for every occasion and situation. All this has lead to is a sad life with many broken promises. If you love her and want her back, dump the list. The list is a crutch. It is a "back door" you can use to jump out if this thing if it starts going the wrong way. You and I both know you want her back, so put NO conditions on her return. I have said for weeks that if my W strayed, we were done. But that was before I finally realized that I played a huge role in my W left. If she strays, I will be devastated, but life will go on (Well, as long as she didn't shag the entire offensive line of the Dallas Cowboys or something ). JMO. But give it some thought.
BITS never walk alone!
FOBD
Me: 39 W: 36 T: 15 yrs M: 9 yrs S: 09/10
So you can get on with your search, baby And I can get on with mine And maybe someday we will find, That it wasn't really wasted time...
). JMO. But give it some thought.
