Your strategy of "as if" is simple. Life is great in the world of next. When my W told me I would be getting the papers I said " ok I'll sign them and send them back to u. I think we can work this out but if you feel we can't then I Wouk respect your wishes"
The key with u right now is the way the message is displayed. Sound needy and it's a turn off sound upbeat and she will wonder why.
I'm in bumper to bumper right now in manhattan so I figured I'd check from my phone