Shine on you crazy diamond...

[dixiegal]

FOBD,

When I read your question. I asked myself...at the core what makes me feel loved as a Woman by a Man. Here's the list:

Actions speak just as loud as the words... You gotta walk the talk so I'll believe you this time.

Trust...That my H is my partner in life and in MY corner no matter what that he wont walk out when things get tough! That things I say wont get turned agaisnt me later.

LOVE...Thanking me for the small things that I do..having H favorite drink always in stock, food, clothes pressed whatever it is that she did for you. Us girls always think about the details.

Protection....I don't mean in just the force/security thing. I mean, that when someone is agaisnt me that my H feels the need to protect me. That my H doesnt want me to be exposed to certain things.. That he is my protector.

Affection...This isnt just sex. Its a kiss, a pat, the way my H use to put his hand on the small of my back and lead me, holding my hand, brushing my hair from my face...its those things that matter to us the most!

So, as I type this I'm crying...cause, I realize I had not asked myself what I wanted. I forgot...

FOBD, your making such great strides...your asking and that means you CARE! That's a good thing...keep asking and wondering how to get it right.

Now, if you get the chance to have that talk with her. Just tell her that your sorry and you want to show her that its not just talk, then do it. Tell her all the things that you did wrong and how you know now you made some mistakes. But, you want to correct those wrongs going forward. Be clear that you understand her needs. Ask her, what she needs to feel loved by you? Then REALLY listen and do it.

My friend, I would do anything for my H to come to me and say those things......I'm proud of you!

"Life is short, Pray Hard"

Dixie