I knew about DB years ago when a friend was going through it. In support of her I read the blogs. Then it happened to me. I was in denial for a long time. So I had the luck of doing DB for a long time (while H was having an A) without really knowing it. By the time I woke up, it was on its way out. So the bulk of the work had been done.
Don't make any major decisions.
Breathe and let the dust settle.
There are a lot of people here who can help. Many of us have used the DB techniques and can tell you our experiences.
MZ
M 55 H 58 M 24 T 29 S 22,21, 19 Bomb 4/10 It (A) really isn't about you 11/2013 We all have work to do
The truth will set you free, but it will almost kill you first.