I have been holding my breath as well, and as soon as I booted up I went straight for your post. Wish I could have posted sooner but too busy at work.
I think you have really looked hard into the mirror, saw yourself for what you are, and took away the last veestiges of the old Denver. The act of sharing it with us here on the boards really cemented that.
I have a feeling that you are climbing back up now. YOU, not just the sitch, as the sitch actually seems ahead of you.... your W recognized or is recognizing your changes even before you had fully done so! She too, with being totally honest, has shown that she is ready to start on this journey of healing.
Man, I am happy for you!
Please do try to forgive and acccept. You can do it. It is all up to you. If I were given the chance you got, I would just die of happiness.
Me:49 H:45 D:12 M:14 T:18 Bomb: 6/26/10 EA: 9/3/10, fizzled out slowly, now ??? 11/5/11 Retrouvaille Finally piecing.... Its peaceful at last, but we got a looong way to go
