From the Darkness Comes the Light!

[what next?]

Lis, Michelle

Thanks for the insight especially from a womans angle. Lis I need validating more than my W sometimes. I am turning into such a woman. HA.

At this point I think she will go through the D just to tell herself she did it. Almost like proving to herself she was strong enough to follow through. That would be my first boundary test.

I have always stated I have two breaking points

1. OM/PA
2. Divorce being final

I now have to re-evaluate my stance if this happens. I hope I am wrong about this but the fact that she initiates is comforting. It is so much easier to see other peoples small victories while failing to see my own.

This is exactly what I *hope* my wife is doing. I think that for her to not go through with it at this point would only mean that I had talked her out of it. I realize how hard it was for her to build up the strength to take this step and she would feel like she was betraying herself on a massive scale if she didn't follow through. That's why my goals are to reestablish a friendship and let her know that I am only interested in seeing that we both live out happy lives... whether that be together or not.