This is a time, that you will be examining all aspects of yourself, and the blinders about your M are gonna come off. You will see things you liked and things you didn't.
Eventually, you will begin to see what you will need in the future for your life and happiness.
Then, if you continue through this process, you will look at your H, and see if he can someday be a part of that.
It is a natural and healthy part of the process.
I, too, didn't stop "taking care" of my H for a long time. For similar reasons.
Actually, eventually, my H, took some of those duties away from me. At first, it felt like crap. In the long run, it was appreciated because it took some of the stress off, gave me more time to focus on me.
A question (like you weren't expecting it LOL)...
Your kids, they are teens...
How responsible are they for their own things?
I am a caregiver. In my personal life, my profession, and my nature...
I give. Sometimes, I give too much. And I begin to feel really drained. When I feel like I don't want to give anymore, that is when I have to see if I have been taking care of myself as well. Usually, the answer is no. And it is time for a timeout for me.
There is nothing wrong with that.
None of this comes overnight, I know you know that.
It all takes time and patience. And sometimes some venting.
How is that Vette?
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
