This is kind of what I mean about "toxic" atmosphere. My H and I were not fighting at all. But the verbal jabs were hurtful and the silence was heartbreaking.
SIC, you are not in the same bed because it's comfortable. You're in the same bed because both of you want to be there. My bed is real comfortable. I have the best pillows God ever created. My H left the bedroom. You know why? He wanted to. Now, if you decide to go the couch route, there is no way back until you start moving towards the reconciliation. So, if you make that decision understand that.
There are some serious anger issues going on with your W. You need to stop engaging her. Let her spew her venom and keep quiet. You need to diffuse, diffuse, diffuse. If you don't, then the words will get more hurtful. She is deliberately pushing your buttons. That's why she asked about your reaction about having kids. She wanted to make sure she got the right one. It isn't pretty, but that's where you're at.
Why such anger from your W?
Hang in there, sweetie. I know this is gut-wrenching and I am so sorry for your pain. I'm praying for you and your peace. And remember, those little girls LOVE you.
