I feel you are walking the path in front of me in many ways, Denver. In my case I f'ed up years ago. I think my W never dealt with it and it festered and is popping up now.
I also have my suspicions about her having a PA ... and basically knows she intends to.
Anyway .... you did great man. You did exactly what you wanted to do. And, just as after a big job interview ... you always want to get the offer. Well, sounds like you may be getting that job offer .... now what do you do?
You don't have to carry on. You can use the PA as a good reason to bail if you want. Or, you can feel that both parties are responsible for the destruction of the M, and both can build a new one together. But you'll both have to be able to process that anger and guilt.
I think the thing is here ... you can do either ... if you want. So, what do you want?
B.I.T.S
Formerly known as onStepAtATime Me:31 W:31 T:13 yrs M:8 yrs D: 20 months ILYBNILWY: 9/22/10 "I want a separation" 1/05/11
