SIC, about the sex thing. You can't tell her you accept that she's moving on and want to help her find a house but then try to have sex with her. When she's drunk. It screams "I don't care about you or respect" to a woman. I know you know it was a mistake. Responding to your question about how long to wait? For how long you want to save your marriage. If you value sex over your marriage then you're not committed. Committed means waiting 3 months or 3 years if you have to. Yes, I get you're a guy, you have urges and all that caveman stuff but women are wired differently. We cannot have sex with men we don't like or want. Why are you guys still sharing a bed if you can't handle it? Why don't you take the initiative (especially if she's about to move out) and ask her to sleep on the sofa? Or you sleep on the sofa? Not a mean way but in a detaching, moving on way to keep yourself out of trouble? Maybe it will be a 180 she'll notice... ie "he doesn't want me?".
Me - 38, 2nd M, no living children, 1 forever 6 yr old boy H - 44, 3rd M, twins 16
Dating 4/07 M 10/08 Bomb #1 12/10 Bomb #2 1/11 Bomb #3 12/11
