Denver, I know how painful this is, hearing the confirmation of what you feared. I won't lie, I heard the confirmation from my W I think 5 months ago and it still pops into my head at random times. It still hurts, but it's more of a dull ache when it happens now. You WILL get through this, you have no choice. The choice you do have is HOW you get through this.
I'd like to recommend the book Not Just Friends (if it's ok with the mods). It deals with EAs and PAs from all three standpoints, hurt partner, unfaithful partner and other person and helps provide some clarity and understanding. It's about as non-judgemental as can be and really helped me deal with the sitch. Even my W has started reading it to see how and why she did the things she did.
Hang in there!
Me 43 W 38 M 5 T 7 SD20 S15, S13 with 1st W ILYBNILWY June 2010 Separation/Bomb July 2010 Divorce Feb 8, 2011
