So the cleaning did not go well. A 200lb puppy wanted attention. His paws are the size of small saucers so the tracks he leaves behind on a freshly mopped floor are impressive. I need a do over there. Got the rest of it done though. Get through the meeting with L tonight with as little trauma as possible. Call W, be pleasant exude confidence, advise her "Mom knows we're having problems" and I will be busy Sat don’t offer explanations, wait for her to ask.
BITS Me 55, ACK, when did that happen? Doesn't feel like 55 D 30 S 27
You create your own universe as you go along - Winston Churchill
Trying Bolt - some days are more of a challenge than others. I greatly appreciate you starting this thread. I think it's really helpful in helping us stay the course.
I want to keep it in the forefront in this forum at times if possible. I'd hate to have it get lost in the mix.
BITS
M: 48, H: 42 Kids: 0 T: 20 yrs M: 16 yrs. (H's 1st, my 2nd) WAS/MLC: 12/7/09-I'm not the wife HE deserved Came home per L: 12/26/09, Left again: 2/6/10 Served: 10/21/10, D FINAL: 6/15/11
here's a secret, that's not such a secret we women like a little unavailable now and then just like you guys do
and stop bragging about all your beach time come to ny and shovel snow
glad your day was good xo
grr...you are spot on as always!
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M: 48, H: 42 Kids: 0 T: 20 yrs M: 16 yrs. (H's 1st, my 2nd) WAS/MLC: 12/7/09-I'm not the wife HE deserved Came home per L: 12/26/09, Left again: 2/6/10 Served: 10/21/10, D FINAL: 6/15/11
M: 48, H: 42 Kids: 0 T: 20 yrs M: 16 yrs. (H's 1st, my 2nd) WAS/MLC: 12/7/09-I'm not the wife HE deserved Came home per L: 12/26/09, Left again: 2/6/10 Served: 10/21/10, D FINAL: 6/15/11
W is home and needs a day to unwind. Give it to her by heading out and writing at beach (sorry, I'm not going to be living here too much longer so I have to get the jabs in while I still can)
*interesting note - so how is giving your wife space a goal? Well, I look at it as something that she NEEDS. I could stay in the house all day and not talk to her and give her space but by me getting out, it makes her FEEL that she has her own time. She doesn't have to see my ugly mug every other minute (I'm not THAT ugly). PLUS she actually gets excited to see me when I do return.
interesting note off*
m 40 w 38 married 15 together 18 d11, d8 bomb 12/19/10 2nd bomb 3/30/11 COMPLETELY DONE
M: 48, H: 42 Kids: 0 T: 20 yrs M: 16 yrs. (H's 1st, my 2nd) WAS/MLC: 12/7/09-I'm not the wife HE deserved Came home per L: 12/26/09, Left again: 2/6/10 Served: 10/21/10, D FINAL: 6/15/11
well, just looking at the major goal - accomplished. Did a ton of work and even saw a movie.
Had a minor setback (check out my sitch) but then put this goal to work - give her space.
We had a little fight and then made up. I then gave her space to cool down and she came to me, hugged me and kissed me and said thanks. That counts as a goal accomplished...
Where you all at??
m 40 w 38 married 15 together 18 d11, d8 bomb 12/19/10 2nd bomb 3/30/11 COMPLETELY DONE
Tommorrow's goal is to sleep in a little later and try to get rid of these bags!
BITS
M: 48, H: 42 Kids: 0 T: 20 yrs M: 16 yrs. (H's 1st, my 2nd) WAS/MLC: 12/7/09-I'm not the wife HE deserved Came home per L: 12/26/09, Left again: 2/6/10 Served: 10/21/10, D FINAL: 6/15/11
Your thread reads like a how to manual. I love this thread because it helps me get organized with goal settings. denver suggested awhile back to place sticky notes on the mirror in my room. I think I will use/modify some of your goals and place them there so that I can be reminded of the prize.
I think my goal for this month is to figure out a way to visit W in OK. I would love to see her but this has to be done very carefully.
