You've been doing this for awhile, so your not a newbie, you know alot more things about DBing and yourself. So while I'd refrain normally from telling a new poster to engage in an R talk, in your case?
What is a realationship talk going to hurt?
If the status quo is GOOD you do not want to upset it.
If the status quo is BAD? Why wouldn't you want to upset it?
You're thinking divorce and not in the I just got here knee jerk reaction sort of way. So, if you are there...what do you have to lose by trying new approaches? _________________________
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Jack - Thanks for the understanding. As you know the only reason I hang on is for my D. Things are good until I try to get close to my W. Then we fight and she plays the martyr where I'm blaming her for everything. I've noticed that after we have an argument she acts a little odd. I can't put my finger on it but she seems agitated and more loving to our D then usual. Then she tries to become the mother of the year but, that only lasts for for a few days.
Personally, I think my W was sexually abused when she was younger. I know she was from her former H. I keep pushing for her to see someone for help, but she puts it off. She won't see a MC anymore. I want someone new - someone who will have a new approach to our mess.
