Sitting in my house all alone...

[Navyguy]

So, back on the selling the car thing...here's the e-mail I'm thinking about sending. What does everyone think?

W,

As part of my journey of learning who I am and becoming who I truly want to be, I have realized just how much you have sacrificed in your life for me and our family. You have always been so willing to work your tail off to get what you wanted out of life, and I truly admire that about you. I don't think there is a better example of that than what you accomplished while I was in Afghanistan...you were staying up until 3 AM or later to do your schoolwork...and all the while you were taking care of xxxx and xxxx and the house while I was over there. You did a truly amazing job and it should have been so obvious to me that you felt great about what you had accomplished. Then I got back, and instead of seeing what you needed in life and adapting myself to what was making you happy, I expected you to go back to the way things had been...and I was so, so wrong to do that. You even told me how much happier you were! It should have been so obvious to me how important that was to you.

This leads me back to my priorities in life and my realization of how screwed up they have been. I have always wanted you to be happy, but my actions have not reflected my words. I have made one decision after another where I should have put your happiness first, but failed to do so. I should have done anything I could to support your goals, and I didn't. I should have been your #1 cheerleader and pushed you toward your goals, and I didn't.

Not anymore.

You are such a wonderful, giving person...you have always known the meaning of unconditional love, and your actions have always reflected that. You sacrificed going to school so xxxxx could go to preschool. I now know that before that ever happened I should have looked at what I could have sacrificed for you and him. Sometime next week you will see a pretty good-sized deposit in our savings account. The money is from selling the S2000, and it is yours. I hope that you will use it to pay for your school, no matter what happens with us. This is something I should have done a long time ago, and I am truly sorry and am so disappointed in myself for the fact that things had to get to where they are today for me to realize that. I now have new priorities in life, and for the first time I truly feel inside that I have them right.

Love,

M