The Moment of Clarity

[zengypsy]

Denver:

I'm a little slow and confused on this Friday due to major lack of sleep so I totally apologize. So, does your W want to reconcile or does she want a D?

I want to tell you in confession post, I saw alot of myself and my H in there too. You write so eloquently in getting your point across. I feel honored that you felt comfortable enough with us to share such a personal story. It's not easy to face your inner demons and some never do, but when you do as crappy as it may make you feel, it's a huge heaviness that you no longer have to have in your life. I truly feel that you can never move forward unless you address this stuff. You can't skirt over the deep rooted stuff all you will end up doing is coasting. I hope you realize how huge that was for you to finally shed that last layer of dead skin. Don't beat yourself up about it.

As far as your W and the PA, Michele makes it quite clear in her book in the MLC section, that it's an experimental phase and that can include a relationship with another person. I don't feel alot of Michele's theories just hold true for the chapters she included them in, but they are global for all crisis in a marriage. Hence, I think this theory can apply to Infedilty too. I think they just need to see what's out there sometimes. They say they are happier without us. I pose the question. Is it true? Or, is it that they think they are happier.

You should be proud of yourself Denver. I know that it's a hard time for you. We are all here for you. BITS/SITS are a force to reckoned with. You will don't have to go thru this journey alone.

Wishing you a good Friday and (((HUGS)))