Just a point here from the Mr.'s perspective - I have been that jerk of a husband and she has left and is not returning. I have written that apology letter to her at least 20 times over the past 5 months - she reads them and never responds other than to say - I don't believe you - its just an act - you will NEVER change one bit - not ever.

The challenge for me therefore is to live each and everyday with the Fruit of the Spirit shining thru in everything I say think and do, not just with my relationship with my WAW but with all who I come into contact with. I know that I am changing and she will never believe it unless I show it thru my consistent actions over a long long time. The sad situation in our breakup is that my WAW truly thinks that it is only me who needs to change, thinking that our relationship problems are 100% my fault.

Onward and upward becoming a better man - on my own.

Firstlove

M-58
W-56
Married 33 years
BOMB -Sept/10
Separated 8 months

BITS (of Fruit)
Firstlove

"Go Confidently in the direction of YOUR dreams - Live the life you've imagined"
- Thoreau