The Moment of Clarity

[dixiegal]

Denver,

I wept as I read this...First, I'm so sorry that you had to hear/face this truth. I know it was so painful. I've been there friend. But, here is the thing:

You sat w/love in your heart even after your W told you this and listened to her and understood her pain.

You choose to love her, your ss and want your marriage.

You confessed your part in the destruction of your "old" marriage.



Denver, I know how bad this hurts you. I have felt the same things that you are right now. But, now you know finally the real and whole truth. You both destroyed that Marriage. PA just do not happen. Its a choice. Just like the choices you were making back then. It's the past now..let it stay there. But, your past does not have to be your future~ You can have a 'NEW" marriage built on solid ground. Ya'll CAN come back from this Denver...

You can be a better man, you can change and leave your old self behind. So, can your Wife....if you let her. She said to you, that she wanted to work on the M. But, even now she said to you only if your changes are real?? She is hurting too Denver. I do not believe for a moment that she does not feel guilt about her actions. She is just pushing those feelings down right now so she doesnt have to feel.

Denver, you are the only one that can decide if you want to keep going on this path. Forgiveness is a powerful thing...resentfulness and anger will destoy you and your marriage. Agreed? It will prevent you from creating and growing anything new too.

Denver, ask GOD to help you to forgive her and your self. Ask him to change your heart. Just start right there friend....

I'm proud of you Denver! It took a lot for you to confess to us all the real truth, but to yourself is HUGE!!!! Though you don't see it right now. You are becoming a better Man and Husband! Through this pain you are making strides to change.

Denver, I'm praying for GOD to come in your heart today. To give you peace and forgivemess. To keep your mind/heart protected from those who would not act in his will. I'm praying for your W. For GOD to soften her heart and for her to ask him for forgiveness.

There is a book called "I Do Again" its written by the Scruggs. Its about a couple who made it back...I have met them in C a few times. I think it will help...keep reading DBing...if ya got a bible grab it now!

We all love ya Denver......we are all here for you....

You can do this Denver....imagine the possibilites!!!