Got home from work yesterday and my W didn't say a word to me for first 2 hours or so. I said "Hi how was your day?" just generically to her and kids. Gave kids hugs, and played with them for a few minutes.
My MIL made a turkey dinner (no idea why, but it was fantastic) and we all ate together.
After dinner it's our normal time to start getting the girls ready for bed. I'm confused, my W just sits down on the couch and starts watching TV. So I get D2 ready for bed, and start motivating D5 and D6 to come get their PJ's on. So I am assuming she was testing me after the previous night when she was mad that I hadn't followed the routine??
Anyways, she comes upstairs for story time and we read a couple books. It's time to put D2 to bed, so I go to take her to bed. She whines that she wants Mom. So I just said, "Daddy can take you" and she just finds again. My W says, "She just likes Moomy best". Of course I react and say, "She loves Daddy too!" and my W responds, "I know she loves you, but all of the girls have a closer bond with me, because I've bonded with them for 9 months longer than you did." To which I replied, "I spent time in the last few months of your pregancy's talking to them".
Her response, "With D2, when I was pregnant I asked you a number of times to rub lotion on my belly and you never wanted too" I just said, "That isn't true I remember specifically rubbing your belly many times."
Her reply, "Well don't worry I'm never having another baby with you!" Just the way she said, made it sound like she regreted ever having kids with me. (Obviously she doesn't regret her kids, but I believe she now regrets having children with me!)
I just went silent. Partly because I was hurt, and partly because I didn't want to get into any kind of argument.
Then she says, "What's wrong with you? I can't say that I don't want to have any more kids with you?" I just said, "No that's fine"
I waited a minute, and then left the room. I didn't cry but I certainly felt like it. I cooled off a bit and then came back to but D5 to bed and say good night to D6. When I came out of D5's bedroom the lights in the master bedroom were already off. My W had quickly gone to bed.
I went and got my stuff ready for hockey, we played well, I scored a goal and we won the game. Felt good.
Me - 34 W - 33 M - 8 years T - 15 years D7, D5, D2 Bomb Nov 10/2010 "I'm not happy and INILWY" W Staying for the kids Mar 13/2011
