Thank you Just Stunned, Last night she didnt appear on FB, she has got annoyed at the fact i want to move. Im having councilling and working on my controlling against the councillors advice as she says im making myself fit into a catagory that i dont belong. My wife has gone dark on me, and to be honest im ok with that as it also gives me space to think. GAL is the next step for me, next week she is meant to be staying here, this again is against the refuge rules, last week i ran her to the door with her bags after staying here, it dosnt seem to bother her that she is going against the rules of the place she is staying, she isnt even meant to see me at all, as the controlling is classed as abuse, by the way im not at all violent, never have been and never will be. Her actions do not match her words at all, im waiting now for the court paperwork to sign, should be here very soon, that will hurt i know, but has to be done i guess. Where her mind is i have no idea, i do as you say and validate all with apologies, im staying very dark over weekend, and will see how it goes, the lovingness from her has died since starting to go dark, just hoping this is right, if not i will have to re think, thank you again....kevc
