Really hard time.... III

[2stepboogie]

Good man getting started is the hardest part. I can go the next several days and not talk to her if that happens you will go to my thread and see me winning around about how lonely I am.

One thing I always failed to do was recognize the small victories. Right now your only small victory is to talk to her and to get her to call you.

By the way OM I had mentioned, which for all purposes I believe is not a problem for me any longer, well his fav band is Pearl Jam and he lives in Tulsa.

What did you say your name was again................LOL

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Yeah, I'm so torn. I really don't think she will call me but I don't want to be perusing. I got called from a staffing company about a job at the company where the wife works. That could be interesting lol.

I did know a girl from Ponca City in college that actually went to see Pearl Jam with me in 1995~! But I haven't spoken to her since then so I'm safe

[2stepboogie]

She might not call for awhile and this is the part you will feel the most anxiety. If your W resembles mine this much I would wait at least past the weekend and maybe reach out to her.

I say this very cautiously because if you reach out to her it should be short and for a reason. For the time being just enjoy the convo you had. If you are like me you will go through a high and then a very steep crash. When you crash do not panic. Come here and we will talk.

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She emailed me a minute ago... I accidentally deleted it checking it on my phone and can't find it lol

but it basically said "sorry I haven't got you the info yet. I'm working on it now. Let me know if you need anything specific"

I wish she would have called to tell me that but I didn't think that she would. She is just talking about details with the divorce.

Ugh.

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She has since sent me the following emails:

Here is the document you need to fill out for the cable bill. It has to be notarized just like the divorce decree so probably easier to do it all at once. I'm going to check on the rest of the utilities & figure out if I need you to do anything else to get your name off of them & mine on. Here is the information for the form:

Thanks!
Wife

Husband - do you happen to have the setup disk for the wireless internet? I went to COX to lower the bill and after I set the new stuff up, the wireless doesn't work anymore.

Here's the information for Nelnet:

Could you make sure when you call that my name is off the account? I think it was just on there so I could call and get information on it for you.

Thanks!

There was recently a paypal charge on the IBC account. Can you switch paypal to your new bank account & take IBC off, please?
I'm still going through to make sure I'm not missing anything. I'm not sure if we have to get separate car insurance now or wait until the decree is final but that's another thing to think about.

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So, those three emails came. I'm going to come up with my responses and call her with them tomorrow. That way I'm on the phone with her again at least. Just kills me how "business like" she is in the emails. I mean... Thanks! ? ?? ? REALLY? lol

that hurts.
Wife

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idk why it says "wife" at the end of that post... lol

[2stepboogie]

I'm out right now but I can say this.......take your time before answer even if you answer tomorrow

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You mean I shouldn't call her back crying and asking how she could be so cold about splitting one into two? Lol... because sadly that is pretty much how I would have handled it a month ago!

I planned on waiting until tomorrow to respond but that also gives me more time to get input from you guys. I definitely want it to be over the phone but would like specific ideas on hoe to steer the conversation towards her telling me about how she's doing.

Thanks guys

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You mean I shouldn't call her back crying and asking how she could be so cold about splitting one into two? Lol... because sadly that is pretty much how I would have handled it a month ago!

I planned on waiting until tomorrow to respond but that also gives me more time to get input from you guys. I definitely want it to be over the phone but would like specific ideas on hoe to steer the conversation towards her telling me about how she's doing.

Thanks guys

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So my plan is to just do the things she asked me to then call her tomorrow night to let her know what I was able to get done. I really don't know what else to do... so hard to talk about this stuff with a smile on my face lol

But I think that if I handle this right it could really be a good chance to DB... as weird as that sounds. If she gets through this with the ability to see that I am going to help her then talking to her after the divorce is final should be pretty rewarding. I feel like I have the opportunity to get her to let her guard down and after the divorce she should be much more ready to open up.

At least that's my hope.