You know, what I think is really important about all your interactions for you and everyone else is that this is really like building a relationship from the ground up.
I think that to some extent a lot of us visualize that if they could just "come back" things would be ok, but in actuality, if they do start to make overtures as far as coming back, it isn't automatic. It involves building things from the first block onward. So I think your posts are very helpful as far as a reality check.
I think what you are doing with Mr. GAG is good, though, because building something with so much "work" under the bridge is really good/lasting, I'd think.
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