This is weird. I go around the house on my nightly routine - turn off heater, make sure doors locked, and when I open the door to the garage to check if the garage door is open, the garage light is on. Without thinking I turned it off, then I thought about it again and turned it back on. Then I see my wife talking on the phone in the car. Then she opens the door and irately says, "will you stop spying on me?" I told her I wasn't but was checking the garage, then I left.
Okay, so there are things that the DB/DR books say will push my wife away, such as snooping, checking up on what she does, etc. But in this case, and others before, my wife imagines (but personally believes) I'm spying on her, so does that mean I'm pushing her away without me even lifting a finger? I know it's distrust and paranoia I'm facing here, and I need to care about myself, because there's nothing that will alter her perception.
Dear God, help me see past this fog, and may I develop trust and patience for myself as well as others.
