Shaves,
I don't have children, so I can't help here. But, I would say this. Spend as much time telling them that you both still love them and that this will never change. Answer their questions with love and honesty and continue to reassure them that they are going to be OK no matter what happens. That is about all you can do. You won't be able to control their emotions or how badly their minds are going to mess with them later. Just do your best. I know you will!!!

BITS never walk alone!

FOBD

Me: 39
W: 36
T: 15 yrs
M: 9 yrs
S: 09/10

So you can get on with your search, baby
And I can get on with mine
And maybe someday we will find,
That it wasn't really wasted time...