New and need help.

[FellOnBlackDays]

Hey Seminole,
I did my best to get as many folks as I could over to your call for help as soon as possible. I hope this did help you some. I am sure more will come to your aid as I will ask again tonight for more of the BITS to jump in.

Yes, they are right. This is the club that no one ever, ever wants to join. But, here we are and we must make the best of it or we will die a slow and agonizing emotional death.

Please, please follow what you read here. What I read here when I first joined last fall probably saved my sanity. There are so many folks on here that are "further down the road" than you and I and they can provide insight and guidance that will get you through the lonely nights and days to come. Five months ago, my W walked out, started and EA, and now claims it is over. I am very proud to say that I am still alive, still can have fun and still believe there is a chance that I can save my marriage.

You will get through this, I promise. But, you must follow the advice and guidance you get here. No, you won't always agree with what you are told. But, believe me it works. You have read my sitch, so you have seen first hand how following the instructions handed down in the DR can get you back to a better place with your W.

Remember:

1) Take care of yourself and your children first.
2) Don't spend too much time alone. Go out and GET A LIFE!
3) Don't contact your W. If she wants to be left alone, do it. Right now, she is looking for a whipping boy, don't be that guy. It will only make things worse.
4) Read as much as you can on here. You can learn so much about what to do and what not to do right here for free!
5) Try not to dwell on OM right now. He is not your friend and you should not worry about him. Sounds like your W is lashing out and is definitely not in her right mind.
6) Comb these sitchs to find other examples of crappy behavior of other WAS's. Hell, go look at mine and you will get some great example's of what a WAS will act like at times.
7) When you feel angry, sad or alone, come here and post. These people are great and they will pick you up.
8) Don't be ashamed that there will be times where you will falter and fall down. We all do it. None of here are hardened criminals or Harvard trained head-shrinkers. You are dealing with a woman you once loved more than your own life. This will be hard and you will have days where you will feel great and other days where you will want to die. Again, go read my posts. I am all over the board depending on the day and the alcohol level in my blood at the time of the post.

Sorry you are here, but you are in good hands.

Remember, the only easy day here was yesterday!!!

FOBD