Ok, let's deal with your most pressing issue, your daughter... I'm not going to give you the kids are resilient speech because that is crap.
Oh boy, I can't even believe I'm going to get into this, but it is important. So, I explained in my own thread my therapy entailed talking about the rape and "my past." So that, I suppose is the other gem. I was molested by a close family member (not quite your daughter's sitch but close enough). (You'll all understand why I'm going to just disappear for awhile). There were two ways my life was going to go in reaction to this: 1) either I let the situation define me or... 2) I find forgiveness in my heart and define my own life. I went for option #2 and I mean in a big way. I cannot even begin to tell you how fortunate my life has been after I found forgiveness. Today "close family member" and I are best friends. I know that's hard to believe for some, but that's just the truth. God was huge in that journey. The people close to me in my life were huge in that journey. Even though most didn't really know my whole story, they were HUGE. I'm going to make a suggestion that I need so much for you to take the right way: if you concentrate too much on what happened to your daughter, she is going to feel that she is defined by what happened. That is going to cause huge issues. My problem with the "close family member" was private. But my rape, well, that was pretty public. Everyone knew what happened including those in my school. They very much let what happen define me in their minds. I was no longer LIS, I was the girl who was raped. I thought of myself that way too. But that was bad. I was still LIS. I know I'm not articulating this right. I need some help here. But, your daughter and your relationship with her is so much bigger than the tragedy in her life. Make THAT your focus. This will bring so much healing for both of you.
I completely respect your wishes about taking care of your H. DO IT FOR YOU, THOUGH.
Ooooohhh... furniture, did I tell you I LOVE decorating??? When will you finish that piece?
Ok, so today, I was not supposed to get angry at my H. (So far so good, but the day is still young)
I am supposed to go to the gym (probably not going to happen - migraine again. Which we'll bring up in goals tomorrow)
I need to eat at least 3 vegetables (check already)
I need to begin Bible study on Hebrews (bluck... not one of my favorites because the theology is tough for me there - I'll get back to you on whether I get that done, but I probably will and if I don't, you can kick my butt)
Are you looking cute?????? I just LOVE that.
Yes, sweetie, lay yourself on the altar. That is EXACTLY what you need to do. It's just so amazing what happens after that.
I'm so praying for you. I'm praying mostly for your peace. You are just so deserving of so much.
