My sitch is in its 7th month, and yesterday again I just fell apart. I cried and sobbed while driving home. Then decided to go for some retail therapy, boy, did that help.
No matter what, the rejection, resentment, sadness, loss all come back, and we fall apart. Whatever label we put on our H's , it doesn't matter. They have left us, whether physically or emotionally or both. I think being with your H (like me) has its disadvantages. When we are around them, they feel guilty, and it pushes them farther away. When we are close, we see what they do, their lies, we resent it when they prioritize the OW, and this leads to R talk, to acting resentful, and this does not help the sitch. We may not understand it but going dim or dark seems to be a way that others have trodden before and that seems to be a better way than being arpound and too available. Myself, I could not do it, although I am working at detaching.
It is really and truly hard to let go, i tell you. My friends think I have but to be honest, here in the forum many people tell me that I have not really been successfuil in doing so, and I know I have to try harder.
Just don't be discouraged though.
Its a slow process usually, but you will get there.
Me:49 H:45 D:12 M:14 T:18 Bomb: 6/26/10 EA: 9/3/10, fizzled out slowly, now ??? 11/5/11 Retrouvaille Finally piecing.... Its peaceful at last, but we got a looong way to go
