W in long PA with another woman. I'm devastated.

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Google......Chinese Bamboo Tree

I understand. Here is what I took most out of it.

"It takes maturity to be patient. And it takes maturity to be willing to give your spouse the time they need to grow and to see that time as an opportunity for you to grow too."

I have to begin building those deep routes are undetected to finally see the bamboo grow.

I think you have to LOOK at both....

Understand that you ARE responsible for an equally as important role in what she is feeling....

And you should ask yourself...Did I do my best ?

Look, on a moral scale, what she did was far worse than what you did...

Or was it ?

I'm not saying you are a perpetual liar or anything...

But if you are truly trying to work through these things in MC ?

Bottom line ?.....you lied to her...

Forget about her

Forget about why

Forget about that cows sleep standing


Is that your best ?




You justifying the "why" you did it....doesn't make it any more right...

Doesn't make what she did right. Doesn't make you doing it because she did any more right.

You being more righteous in your reasons, isn't any more attractive.

You are right. When I go into the next couple's therapy, I need to go with the intention of taking responsibility for my actions and deceit. That was the role that I played and must apologize for. I can also understand that trying to belittle her is not an attractive quality for me to have. Pointing fingers of blame goes nowhere. I need to look at my mistakes.