I can forgive the dating site stuff (am trying to anyway)...
Good! If you really think about it what does it really mean? It means nothing in the big picture I told you I did it because it was exciting and fun but I never intended to do anything other than stroke my own ego, maybe it was not being stroked at home hmmmm something to think about.
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"I'm doing it only because I love you and want to make this work, not for any other reason".
This guy is my brother! Few words and few explanations what he is saying, in his mind, should be enough. If it wasn’t so he wouldn’t say it. “How can she not get it. I am telling her the truth. I am telling her I love her. If she still feels like talking about it that is her problem. I can’t be anymore clear” This is in his head. I bet you a box of doughnuts. Is it right? NO. The important to remember is that he is not doing it from a place of negativity or disregarding your feelings, he just doesn’t know what works for him. Ignorance, and blindness is a common disease among us men.
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He did get defensive and ask me why I won't let it go since he told me that the panties belonged to the XW twice (on the phone yesterday and this morning).
Hello me, meet the real me! I said this to my W on more than one occasion “W I don’t understand why we are having the same conversation over and over. I’ve told you how I felt about this and you should not worry about that. I don’t get why we need to have the same convo 100 times? You are going to have to deal with it because I am sick of talking about it” Sound familiar?
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So here I am. I don't feel comfortable with his answer but I don't think I'll ever get a different answer. So now I have to choose to believe him and DB and try to make this work or choose not to trust him and move on.
That is 100% right sweetie it is your choice.
I am good at finding the problem but not so good and showing solutions. I got it, he can too, but what will it take? That part I don’t know. I hope this helps.
