That goes back to my current feeling. Is the hurt from discovering my wife's affair REALLY equal to the hurt of the deception of checking her email? I can agree that damage has been done and both of us will need to work to fix that damage. Let's also hope that while fixing that damage, we make the foundation stronger as well to prevent future damage.
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Originally Posted By: sparks14
Would you mind clarifying the deceit comment? Are you talking about why was there deceit from her to have an affair to begin with? Are you still talking about my deceit to check her email?
I think you have to LOOK at both....
Understand that you ARE responsible for an equally as important role in what she is feeling....
And you should ask yourself...Did I do my best ?
Look, on a moral scale, what she did was far worse than what you did...
Or was it ?
I'm not saying you are a perpetual liar or anything...
But if you are truly trying to work through these things in MC ?
Bottom line ?.....you lied to her...
Forget about her
Forget about why
Forget about that cows sleep standing
Is that your best ?
You justifying the "why" you did it....doesn't make it any more right...
Doesn't make what she did right. Doesn't make you doing it because she did any more right.
You being more righteous in your reasons, isn't any more attractive.
